Welcome to the 21st century, a time where honesty, decency, and respect has taken the back seat so that our two thrillseekers ‘deceit’ and ‘YOLO’ can take the wheel for a while.
Let’s not beat around the bush. If you’re here, then you suspect that your partner might have a little something on the side, and you want to know how to catch a cheater.
There’s a thin murky line between legal and illegal when it comes to snooping on people, regardless of whether or not you’re sharing a bed with them. Let’s take a look at how to find what they’re getting up to, without crossing that line.
How to Catch a Cheater (Legally)
The gateway to anyone’s private life is usually their phone. Many years have passed since carrier pigeons were used to send secret messages from one person to another. Before you start down this road though, you should know that accessing a person’s phone or computer without their permission is illegal.
If catching your spouse cheating is likely going to lead to the divorce courts, then this can quickly be used against you. Plenty of websites will point you in the direction of keyloggers and spyware apps, and while they might be an effective way of finding out what someone is doing on their phone, you might be prosecuted for using them.
That’s not to say that you can’t help notice any notifications that might pop up on the screen. Maybe your cause for concern is frequent notifications of messages and calls from a number you don’t recognize. You can lookup a phone number legally to see who might be contacting your spouse.
Hire a Private Investigator
Hacking into your partner’s phone is illegal. So is stalking them or putting a wireless transmitter in their purse or a GPS tracker in their gym bag. While the words ‘private investigator’ might sound a little dramatic at first, it might just be the only way to actually catch your partner in the act.
By hiring a private investigator, you can ensure that any evidence they collect can be used, should your case end up in court. Not only that, but it also takes away the sting of seeing your partner with someone else.
Become a Behavioral Expert
Catching your partner in the act, by yourself, without breaking the law is not so easy; not unless they slip up. One thing you can do is become an expert on your partner’s behavior.
How secretive are they with their phone? Do they take it with them everywhere they go?
Do they rush to have a shower before even saying hello when they get in? Are they suddenly obsessed with keeping in shape?
Learning the tell-tale signs that someone is lying as well as noticing changes in behavior that come without explanation can help you deduce what is really going on.
You Can Get a Little Bit Clouseau
With all this in mind, you should be tooled up to catch a cheater legally. Don’t be afraid to check the wastebasket for receipts of unusual spending. If you’re really worried, you could try turning up to their ‘drinks with friends’ unannounced once in a while.
Whatever you do, be careful. Secretly pursuing the notion that your spouse is cheating can be incredibly stressful. Sometimes, a hard, honest conversation is all it takes to get answers.
Whatever you choose, good luck.
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